Never had a girlfriend because I'm EXTREMLY shy lol

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  1. grytek

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    OP I am on same page, and my age is way above 25. Well from my experience the reason why I failed so much is because of my personality being an introvert and having no good friends (boys) who understands or comfortable with to hang out. You better try to find some good friends (boys) who have no such issues and then try to hang out with him around girls to get yourself comfortable. Also keep your standards low and told yourself about it, and do not look at girls like they are special.

    Hope you find some luck in overcoming this as I could not even after trying. Wish you best!

    PS: DO NO GO AFTER RELATIONSHIPS RIGHT NOW SERIOUSLY, JUST AS YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. JUST GET FRIENDS TO HANG OUT.
     
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  2. VinsCool

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    I disagree a bit on this part.
    Being someone I was not put me in a stressful situation, because I was always trying hard to be someone I am not to please everyone I know.
    This blew up badly, to the point I was making panic attacks at night stressing for the next day and playing acts in my head to fake it and appear normal.

    At the end, I realised that just being myself was a lot more natural, and worked infinitely better to socialise. Though being naturally extrovert helped a lot.
    I'm not fan of being fake, just to get what I want. I don't like fake people either.

    Still I get your point too. It was a necessity to overcome a roadblock to be able to talk with people, as mentioned by a few posts before.
    What I was trying to say though, is that pretending to be someone you're not may also not the best advice.
     
  3. Cyan

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    pretending to be someone else is never good, both for yourself and the other persons.
    you'd end up doing things you don't like, and people would love you for things you don't like either. when you'll have enough to pretend, you'll end alone again, if not the reason why someone left you.

    like you said, it helped being yourself because you were extroverted.
    being introverted might work too, but you still need to be around people who will see you for who you are. it's probably harder, people might misunderstand your intention if you are not confident or too shy. (edit: it happened many time for me)
    I just said sometime "being yourself" is the problem why people are afraid to talk to you. but you just need to find the person who will. for that, you need to force yourself to socialize.
     
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    wake up, you need some action baby.
     
  5. VinsCool

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    Got you :)
    That makes a lot sense, and I see what you mean now. It's all about a good balance of this and that to achieve the goal, I guess :P
     
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  6. DeoNaught

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    I like Cyan's point, You need to force yourself out of yourself, You can do this by volunteering, getting a part time job, Offering a service like lawn mowing.

    Imma be blunt, you're full of yourself, not all people hate you, not all people are shit, if you are nice, and kind, I'm pretty sure some girls already like you. But be yourself, you might need some change, remember though, not all change is good, but not all change is bad, you need to be conscious of it, and decide for yourself.
     
  7. brickmii82

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    Whats the most scary thought about talking to a girl for you? Rejection? Embarrassment? Not knowing what to say?
     
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  8. JellyPerson

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    I don't have a girl and I won't because I'm asexual.
     
  9. DeoNaught

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    well then you might want your own thread to flaunt your sexuality
     
  10. JellyPerson

    JellyPerson JellyPerson#6885 on Discord, hmu!

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    I mean he made the thread because he's shy
     
  11. DeoNaught

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    and?

    "I'm shy, And dunno what to do"

    "well I'm Asexual"
     
  12. LittleFlame

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    Stay on topic y'all
     
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  13. JellyPerson

    JellyPerson JellyPerson#6885 on Discord, hmu!

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    I mean if he's shy I don't think he would come to us and tell us he's shy

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    Also, follow your dreams, ask the girl you like out, rejection doesn't matter
    People will still be there for you
     
  14. Baoulettes

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    I agree on it.
    Shyness I mean true one will prevent you doing such.
    Here he just a young boy that need to learn how, why and when do ask girl out.
    Trial and errors. :)
    And for this well, good luck ~
     
  15. brickmii82

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    Well, it’s easier to be open in a place of anonymity. So being here admitting shyness is different than in person.

    That said, I agree rejection doesn’t matter. Especially with chloroform and duck tape handy. :ph34r:
     
  16. anhminh

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    You are not shy, you are just a coward. Talking scare the shit out of you and you would prefer to not doing anything in hope nothing bad happen. You feel like all you try never result in anything and thus give up half way. You satisfy with any progress you make and soon you see yourself slip back to where you used to be. You are fine with what you have and have no motivation to move forward. Just accept what you have, you didn't miss out anything.
     
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  17. brickmii82

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    Lolwut?!? ... bruh ... you seem really pissed off. You own any trench coats? :huh:
     
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  18. leafeon34

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    You're 15. Summon up your instinctive male arrogance and start talking to people. Be prepared for some embarrassing mistakes and don't give a fuck. Just remember to treat the person you're talking to as a human being.
    Source: http://taraftartekstil.com/threads/how-do-you-make-friends.491622/#post-7733942
     
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  19. Captain_N

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    Alot more women liked me when i was shy. Once i came out my shell and did not care what others thought, they did not want much to do with me. It was like turning off a light switch. Life trolled me...
     
  20. Quantumcat

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    I think the trick is to be shy enough to turn on the mothering instinct while being open enough to actually be able to talk to them. I do find myself more attracted to humble, shy guys. The loud, brash, annoying ones full of ego - no, yuck.
     
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